An Irish Pastor’s Wife Responds

In the late 19th C. and early 20th C. the Presbyterian Church in Ireland (PCI), like many Presbyterian churches throughout the world (including here in Australia), was drifting rapidly from what the Bible teaches, even on such crucial doctrines as the Person of Christ and the way of salvation.

In 1926 a group of evangelical ministers and laity in the PCI (including W. J. Grier and Rev. James Hunter) sought to stem the tide of unbelief by bringing specific charges against J E Davey, Professor of New Testament (later, College Principal), a leading exponent of these false views at Union Theo­lo­gical College where Presbyterian ministers were trained.

But the General Assembly exonerated Davey, and proceeded instead to deal with James Hunter. This led to the formation of the Evangelical Presbyterian Church. Eileen and I were blessed in worshipping with their congregation in Stranmillis in 2004.

In recent years some have been seeking, with varied success, to bring the PCI back to a more Biblical basis. One such group is the Bib­lical Church Lead­er­ship group (BCL), a group of ministers and elders within the Presbyterian Church in Ireland who are “convinced by Scripture that men and women in Christ have complementary contributions to make in the life of the Church and that those ordained to lead them as ministers and elders should be qualified men”; they “aim graciously to persuade members of the Presbyterian Church in Ireland that this teaching is true and good and that reformation wisely conducted in its courts in this regard would promote the glory of Christ and the well-being of His Church.”
They were encouraged by the recent decision of the PCNSW here on this issue.

Predictably, the BCL has drawn ridicule from some, including the following sarcastic piece by Fionola Meredith, a reporter with the Belfast Telegraph, 23 Oct 2026:


Women, know thy place! This seems to be the mes­sage from a group of Pres­by­teri­ans called the Bib­lical Church Lead­er­ship group. As this news­pa­per recently repor­ted, the BCL believes that only men should be min­is­ters and eld­ers in the Church, and that men and women have “com­ple­ment­ary con­tri­bu­tions”.

The theo­lo­gical view, known as com­ple­ment­ari­an­ism, claims the sexes are equal but designed to have dis­tinct roles.

Ah yes, com­ple­ment­ari­an­ism: a big, philo­soph­ical-sound­ing, mealy-mouthed word for blatant sex­ism. I first heard the word — sorry, I can’t be bothered to type it out again — sev­eral years ago, when the Rev Dr Stafford Car­son, then prin­cipal of Union Theo­lo­gical Col­lege and con­venor of the Pres­by­terian Church’s doc­trine com­mit­tee, used it to explain why he didn’t sup­port the ordin­a­tion of women min­is­ters.

Rev Dr Car­son told the BBC: “Per­son­ally, I’m a com­ple­ment­arian, which would say that all the min­istry in the Church is open to every­one and that a woman may do everything a non-ordained man may do, but in the spe­cific role of teach­ing and preach­ing God’s word, I believe that’s reserved for men.”

As I argued back then, lead­ing Pres­by­teri­ans have developed a habit of cloak­ing pre­ju­dice against women and gay people in pom­pous theo­lo­gical lan­guage, pre­sum­ably to make it sound kinder, nicer and more com­pas­sion­ate.

But it’s basic­ally a rhet­or­ical man­oeuvre used to dis­guise straight­for­ward exclu­sion. Women may pos­sess faith, intel­li­gence, exper­i­ence and judge­ment; their sex alone dis­qual­i­fies them from these offices.

Eight years later, the men-only argu­ment has now acquired an organ­ised cam­paign group.

Earlier this year, at a meet­ing at First Ahoghill Pres­by­terian Church, Rev Mark Neilly quoted verses from 1 Timothy 2, say­ing: “Let a woman learn quietly with all sub­missive­ness. I do not per­mit a woman to teach or to exer­cise author­ity over a man; rather she is to remain quiet.”

Hear that, ladies? Sit down and shut up — it’s your Bib­lical des­tiny.

“For Adam was born first, then Eve, and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a trans­gressor,” said Rev Neilly.

You see? You just can’t trust women — gull­ible and dis­obedi­ent, from day one.

Rev Neilly quoted the Amer­ican super-com­ple­ment­arian, Wayne Gru­dem: “The fact that Adam was cre­ated first, then Eve, sug­gests that God inten­ded there to be a pat­tern of male lead­er­ship in the fam­ily and in the church.”

Thus a cre­ation nar­rat­ive becomes grounds for exclud­ing every suit­ably gif­ted woman from lead­er­ship.

Cun­ningly, it also claims divine author­ity for this hier­archy, mak­ing res­ist­ance appear to be dis­obedi­ence to God.

Hil­ari­ously, Gru­dem even went to the trouble of rank­ing 83 church activ­it­ies which he con­sidered appro­pri­ate for women and those reserved for men. Basic­ally it’s a no-no for a woman’s con­tri­bu­tion to give her author­ity over adult men. Because they’re big boys now, pre­sum­ably, and don’t have to do what mummy says any more.

With such far­cical stuff, it’s hard not to take the mickey. But the implic­a­tions are ser­i­ous.

One con­cerned church­goer told Sunday Life: “Preach­ing from our pul­pits, these men are telling attendees that the bib­lical truth is that women should sub­mit to men, that women should have no pos­i­tions of lead­er­ship or author­ity. Given the grave con­cerns of fail­ures in safe­guard­ing in the PCI over sig­ni­fic­ant years, this mes­sage to women and girls from BCL is very con­cern­ing.”

They said: “Can you ima­gine a woman or girl in an abus­ive rela­tion­ship hear­ing the words ‘You should sub­mit to the male in the house’? I would argue if there were more women in lead­er­ship roles, per­haps the Pres­by­terian church wouldn’t be in the mess it’s in. The church needs to deal with BCL.”

Rev Richie Cronin, the chair and founder of BCL, says that it con­demns abuse, does not teach women’s sub­mis­sion to men gen­er­ally, and takes no pos­i­tion on women’s lead­er­ship in soci­ety.

The unanswered ques­tion is whether assur­ances against abuse adequately address the effect of repeatedly present­ing male author­ity as God’s design. What might that mes­sage mean to a woman whose con­fid­ence in her own judge­ment has already been sys­tem­at­ic­ally under­mined?

As for BCL’S insist­ence that many women gladly agree with this doc­trine, that changes noth­ing about the restric­tion itself. A woman’s will­ing­ness to accept a lower insti­tu­tional pos­i­tion does not make that pos­i­tion equal.

The sooth­ing ter­min­o­logy of equal worth, dif­fer­ent roles, sounds so pleas­antly cooper­at­ive and demo­cratic. But women do not need another flat­ter­ing explan­a­tion of why they must remain sub­or­din­ate.

Equal­ity is mean­ing­less when it comes with a ban on the exer­cise of power.

My Comment: It is significant that Meredith lumps together BCL’s supposed “pre­ju­dice against women and gay people”. I would never suggest that the promotion of women to positions of leadership in the church is in the same category as the promotion of practising homosexuals to such positions. But as Colin Smothers has noted: “While many egalitarians don’t believe the Bible condones homosexuality, many egalitarians employ the same hermeneutical method used to affirm same-sex relationships.” The Church of England is a notable example of this.


Steven Smyrl responded to Meredith’s article:
“This proves beyond doubt that the Rev Richie Cronin and Rev Mark Neilly should be removed as ministers within the Presbyterian Church in Ireland.” “Can you ima­gine a woman or girl in an abus­ive rela­tion­ship hear­ing the words ‘You should sub­mit to the male in the house’? I would argue if there were more women in lead­er­ship roles, per­haps the Pres­by­terian church wouldn’t be in the mess it’s in. The church needs to deal with BCL.”

To which Mrs Neilly, wife of the much maligned pastor, gave a fitting answer:


Dear Mr Smryl,

I address you with your title and respect as I have never met you but have read your comments on this issue and I suspect that you would understand degrading a man’s character would have significant effect on his wife and family. I am Hazel, Mark Neilly’s wife and it may surprise you that I am not in anyway abused or feel threatened by my husband who is, by God’s loving command, head of our family. I do not feel inferior, maligned or brainwashed into any means of thinking and to say otherwise, would infer I have less intelligence and theological discernment to assert biblical truths, of which one is complementarianism.

In fact as a wife, I have the same title as has been given to God within Scripture, Ezer kenegdo which is a suitable helpmeet for my husband. Without going into the Hebrew in detail, it does not infer subordination or one to be oppressed – indeed ‘a husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her’ Eph 5; surely you would not disagree with that scripture truth.

As a couple, a man and woman are equal but different in roles. The reason women have so much burnout in today’s society, is that they are to be all things to all people in this fast paced world! That is not what our loving Father designed us for and there is a humility in a ‘daughter’ who accepts she can do anything to love and serve God bar one thing …one thing …to lead as elder/ minister. Eve was declined one thing and look where her lack of humility got her and the rest of mankind.

Your accusation of my husband and others supposedly inferring that women (AND men may I add) should stay in an abusive relationship is totally out of context and wrong. One liner click bait is always good for headlines but is factually incorrect.

For over thirty years, I have watched my husband and others administer pastoral care and aid those who need help in this area and they are certainly not directed to continue to suffer abuse of any description.

Biblical manhood and womanhood are two precious teachings not to be scoffed at.

Mr Smryl, I also rest in the knowledge that thankfully, I am only answerable to God in the end of the day.

Yours sincerely and respectfully, Mrs Neilly…and proud to be.


Jennifer Davidson: “Well said Hazel Neilly”